What do men really want from online dating? I interviewed Erik, 39, to find out what men are really looking for. Erik, a freelance copywriter living in Amsterdam, may come across as a smooth operator, but in person he’s an unpretentious guy who lives up to the credo of “friendship first.”
So what’s the secret of Erik’s success? And what should women do to meet nice guys and get the most out of online dating? A few hints: have fun, act like a friend, and don’t be afraid to be yourself.
For the Dutch version of the interview, click here. Find him on OK Cupid as Chasing_Erik.
What prompted you to sign up to a dating website?
I joined a popular Dutch dating website back in — what was it — 2004 because I didn’t really enjoy going out but loved writing — I had just become a freelance copywriter — and I enjoyed online conversations. It was mostly done through e-mail back in those days. I was pretty shy with girls and online conversations were just a great way to make contact. Basically I was just a guy at a computer, horny and in need of company. I still am.